Redo header bar decorations once more

Redo header bar decorations once more

Applications need a way to fix or adapt the decoration layout,
for situations like split header bars. Setting the layout from
the theme with a style property did not offer a good way to do
this, and the ::show-close-button property does not provide
fine-grained control.

To improve the situation, move the layout string to a property of
GtkHeaderBar which is backed by a setting. This allows platforms to
set a default button layout independent of the theme, while applications
can override the default.

The style GtkWindow style property is now deprecated and ignored.